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New site and blog!

May 24, 2018

Hi folks

Just a quick note to you all before GDPR kicks in. After a lengthy break due to family issues, I’ve now started a new personal and spiritual development business and blog under the name of ‘Rara Avis’.

If you have enjoyed this blog and want to sign up for the new one then please go to where you can check out my latest exciting project.

Thank you so much for supporting this blog and for all your wonderful comments.

I look forward to seeing you all over at Rara Avis!

Warmest wishes



What’s happening with this blog?

June 3, 2014

Recently I’ve had a  lot of new subscribers to this blog which is just fantastic – thank you all so much for your support and interest.

There have also been a lot of comments and if you’ve been one of those people commenting, I’d like to take this opportunity to thank you for taking the time to write and to apologise for the belated approval and response to those comments.

I’m actually currently working on a new project – a book – which is why I haven’t posted anything for a while – and which is why I don’t always pick up your comments until some time after they’ve been left. (I’ve also had technical issues thanks to both my computers being on the blink recently.)

So this is just to let you all know that I will be back online next year once the project is complete, most probably with a brand new blog, so do please stay subscribed as I will notify you all of my new site once it’s up and running, where you’ll be able to continue to read my posts.

I also do appreciate all your comments and I always get round to reading and replying to them eventually, so do please continue to leave them as I very much enjoy reading them.

Thank you again for all your support.

Warmest wishes



Wabi-sabi (part two)

October 8, 2009

In part one, we looked at the original definition of wabi-sabi, which can perhaps be summed up by William Morris’ statement: ‘Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.’

In part two, we’ll explore how wabi-sabi can be applied to the rest of your life and how it relates to the ethos of Inner Simplicity.

Wabi-sabi is non-materialist and anti-consumerist

Daisetz T. Suzuki, one of the first scholars to interpret Japanese culture for Westerners, described wabi-sabi as an ‘active aesthetical appreciation of poverty’. In other words, it’s about removing the huge weight of material concerns from our lives and and instead living a simple and modest lifestyle, free from greed and its companions, envy and anger.

Losing your pre-occupation with the trappings of material success – wealth, status, power and luxury – will bring you a joyous freedom which fills your heart and soul. As the Japanese hermits and monks discovered, opting for material poverty can result in a life of spiritual richness and a deep serenity. When you are no longer desperately pursuing superficial goals, you will find yourself able to step out of the rat-race and live your life at a slower pace, resulting in a peaceful and more balanced way of being for both you and for those around you.

By living wabi-sabi and slowing your life down, you will also be able to re-establish your relationship with nature, taking the time to appreciate its many beauties and learning to tread more lightly on the planet. Being content with very little means that you learn to treat the Earth’s resources with respect and no longer squander them for the sake of temporarily fulfilling your ego.

Wabi-sabi means acceptance – of yourself, of others and of the way things are

One of the definitions of wabi-sabi which I found was this:  nothing lasts, nothing is finished, nothing is perfect.

Isn’t that a wonderfully liberating concept? Accepting these notions means that we can simply let go and let be.

For instance, when we accept that nothing is perfect, we can let go of our pursuit of perfection and appreciate the simple, unaffected beauty of things as they are – including ourselves. We are beautiful simply because we exist, and we learn to appreciate the beauty of our quirks and flaws – our scars, our stretchmarks and the signs of aging – rather than buying into our culture’s worship of ‘flawless’ (i.e. airbrushed and cosmetically enhanced) youth.

As well as ceasing to beating ourselves up for not achieving that unreachable goal of perfection, we also stop berating others for not being what we expect or demand them to be. We can let go of the fear which triggers our need to control everything and everyone and instead allow people and things to be as they are and love them for their ‘perfect imperfections’.

Accepting that nothing lasts also makes accepting our aging process easier and allows us to focus instead on enjoying the freedom which comes from the wisdom of age. This concept also helps us understand that adapting to the inevitable changes in our lives is a far healthier approach than fighting them. Flexibility is key to the wabi-sabi lifestyle.

Finally, when we accept that nothing is finished, we learn to live in the moment (the well-known concept of ‘living in the now’), rather than constantly regretting the past and hankering after an elusive future, resulting in us wasting our present by wallowing in ‘if onlys’ – ‘If only I had that car/body/partner, then my life would be complete’.

Wabi-sabi means being true to you

Living wabi-sabi allows us to discover our authentic self – the real person who exists beneath our desperate attempts to conform to society’s ideals, and who exists beneath all of the insecurities we’ve amassed due to our failure to live up to that ‘ideal’.

Being true to yourself and being happy with who you are helps you connect with that place within you where peace, serenity and harmony reside. By living within, rather than living without, you learn to trust your intuition and follow the promptings of your inner voice, and in doing so, you begin to express your deeper feelings and live, love and work in alignment with your true values.

And so you take the time to enjoy what is most important to you in life. A wabi-sabi life does not need to be constantly filled with stimulation and activities which sap your inner self – rather, it gives you the space to indulge your natural talents and abilities. Being creative is all part of wabi-sabi, which allows you the freedom to make mistakes and see it as part of the process, and to celebrate the imperfections of your unique creations. Or as Leonard Cohen said in his song Anthem :

Ring the bells that still can ring

Forget your perfect offering

There’s a crack in everything

That’s how the light gets in.


Wabi-sabi: For Artists, Designers, Poets and Designers by Leonard Koren

Practical Wabi Sabiby Simon G Brown
Wabi Sabi: The Japanese Art of Impermanenceby Andrew Juniper


At last! Going live…

April 27, 2009

Hello and welcome to my first blog, written from the not-so-glamorous setting of my sick bed. All in all, it’s been a very inauspicious start for ‘Inner Simplicity’ – various ‘technical difficulties’ delayed last week’s launch, and then in the latter half of the week, I was struck down by the notorious and very nasty ‘Norovirus’, which I managed to catch after caring for my sick mother (thanks, Mum! So much for being the dutiful daughter, eh? You’d better be making it worth my while in that will…). I’m still not 100% but I really don’t want to delay the blog – or the official site launch – any longer. So – ta-da! – here goes…

This first entry is actually more of a roll call of people, without whom etc etc. If you’d like to know more about future contents of this blog, check out the website at for more information.

Firstly, I want to thank Mark, one of my oldest friends and also my long-suffering web designer. When I first had the idea of creating a website and blog, I didn’t have the foggiest how I was to going to achieve this, due to my complete lack of technological knowhow and my limited budget. Then about a year ago, Mark (who’s always been a bit of a techno-geek) created his own website and kindly offered – or was coerced, can’t quite remember which – to do mine. He then spent the next six months nagging me to give him some material to work with, only to regret this when I then spent the six months after that nagging him to “change the font type/size, add this to the header, do that to the colour scheme, move this over here… and now change it all back to how it was in the first place… hmmm, no, still not sure…”  – plus a thousand other ludicrously minuscule and pedantic alterations, barely discernible to the average human eye. So thank you, Mark, a thousand times over, for your fabulous techno and design skills, your time and most of all your tolerance in helping me to create a truly fabulous site. If you’d like to check out more of Mark’s work, or maybe even get him to design a site for you, check out his fledgling design company ‘Little Dart’ (named after a river, apparently…)  on He even plays the guitar on the intro…

I also really want to thank my wonderful partner, Lawrence, who has supported me throughout and has never wavered in his belief in me. When the going got tough (which it did, more than once) he kept my spirits up and helped me assuage my doubts.  He consistently reflects my best self back at me and without that, I know I would never have managed to complete this project and you wouldn’t be reading this today. So thank you, darling. (He’s also the only person who’s dared to come near me with my dreaded lurgy, just so he could take care of me – and resulting in him eventually contracting it himself. What a wonderful man 🙂  Or as my fabulous friend Donna put it: “He was prepared to risk the shits for you – now that is what I call love!”)

A big thank you, too, to my beautiful daughter, Phoebe, a very special girl with many, many talents, not least photography – yes, she took the photograph of me which you can see on the ‘About Soulful Musings’ page, and as I am usually extremely unphotogenic, you can see for yourself what a marvellous job she did. She has also been very patient and understanding on hearing the words ‘Mummy’s working’ for the billionth time over the last few months, so thanks for being such an angel, sweetie.

And finally, I’d just like to thank all my family and friends who have supported me, encouraged me and nodded along enthusiastically, avoiding that ‘glazed eyes’ look,  as I rambled on about my site yet again. Thanks, guys!

See you here tomorrow 🙂

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